A little over a month ago my family had to say goodbye to my grandmother Helen Dixon “Dixie” Sharkey at the age of 89. On Tuesday we will say farewell to her love of almost 66 years, my grandfather Lawrence “Larry” Sharkey who lived to the bright-eyed age of 92.
I’ve neglected my blog over the past few weeks. Work has gotten extremely busy and I guess I’ve allowed my laptop to remain in my computer bag after hours and on the weekends to have a bit of “separation” from the mainstream. But I return tonight to reflect on a life of not only a wonderful family man, pianist and former Marine, but also to reflect on a relationship that has been rekindled again after a short time apart and one that will last forever…truly forever.
It’s easy to say “you’re sorry” or that you’re “thinking about someone” when they lose a grandparent…or at least that’s the way I used to see it. So many friends of mine have lost their grandparents in the past and I never knew what it really felt like…I guess in a way I thought they wouldn’t be too sad since their grandparent(s) probably lived a long and happy life. To say the least, I felt I was pretty darn lucky to have three healthy and living grandparents. But in a turn of the calendar page my family has seen some very sad moments in only one quarter of this New Year.
Last month my mom lost her mother and one month later (exactly 44 days to the date) she’s now lost her father…a lot to take in for a person. But if I had to be completely honest, I’d have to say that although it’s extremely hard to lose someone you love so dearly and who touched so many lives, I am so very happy for my “Grindaddy” and that he can be with “Memama” for the rest of eternity. I don’t think a single story from my childhood to my adulthood that involves my grandparents would have been only about one or the other. These two were like peas in a pod and where one was, the other was too. Now the two of them can be together forever and they will be missed so very dearly.
To Memama and Grindaddy, you made a beautiful and loving family and you supported each of us no matter what. I can only hope that I’ll have the same life and marriage that you two did…and that David and I will be half as lucky for the good fortune in life that you two had. You loved us all unconditionally and we loved you back. You two deserve to be together and I’m so glad you are now. If we could wish for one thing at the end of life, to be with the one we love…I’d say that’s truly the way to go.
All my love – Meredith